Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Is Mulit-tasking good for relationships?
In a world that requires us to always be on the run, have we lost the sense of connection with people simply because our energies are divided between more than one thing? How does a person continue communication while needing to tackle the countless tasks and desires? There are several things to consider. Are you capable of accurately giving both tasks the attention they both need? Can this be put off? Is this fair to the person on the receiving end? I know I'm guilty of multi-tasking, a great deal of the time, however when a serious discussion occurs all attention is there's without a doubt. Do people mulit task because the other person on the other end is boring? Only the person who is mulit tasking knows the answer. For me it depends on the situation. A great deal of the time I do multi- task, and I'm really quite good at it. However I believe that some things to do when mulit tasking which I cannot do, where as others can. One must keep in mind that because the person is mulit tasking does not mean they are boring or the person is a jerk. If you can accurately do the task to the full ability that you feel it. However the line proves more challenging with each person. Every person has different ideas of what they consider fair multi tasking and under what circumstances. What I or the person I would date would be different than Sasha down the street. It's all subjective. I trick remains knowing when something works for you and speaking up when something doesn't work for you. Any key for successful relationships is saying I feel, without accusations. A dear friend of mine told me that, and it's very true. If you accuse your partner of doing something then the outcome is going to turn into a fight something that is not necessarily good. These words I believe can be the form of communication that is insanely important in any successful relationship Instead of accusing say I feel. This pharse nine times out of ten should work. I understand your multitasking but sometimes I feel like you're not giving me your full attention. I would also recommend thinking it over time, and weighing the options like if something was up and important, before talking. But in the end if you feel like your attention is not entirely there's, then say something. If the person in the end does not realize that you are important and are entitled to be happy in every sense that they can do. They may not be worth your time and you should be able to walk away. I believe a partner who can't understand how something makes you feel and wouldn't want you to be happy is worth walking away from. A perfect solution may not be achieved right away, but if you're important to them, than in the long run they will come to terms and understand why something made you feel that way. And hopefully it isn't you being boring which I highly doubt. Relationships work both ways and require constant communication in order for them to be successful. Without communication the relationship is bound to fail, and at worst end up being a one night stand.
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